Caring stepson filling his stepmoms void.Caring Stepson filling his stepmom void of a loving Dad is quite difficult. If he were my children, I could not imagine being that frustrated with him. There are so many things to be done and so many things to be committed to that a child with ADHD does not see it as his responsibility to take care of the kids. He sees it as his responsibility to fill their void.
This problem is one that can be very upsetting for both stepmom and their children. My daughter had a very good relationship with her stepmother until she moved out. My son started to feel like he was unable to relate to her or even treat her the way she treated him. When this happened, he went and sat down with her to tell her that he felt that he had lost all connection with her. It turned out that he was not.
The best way to help fill your stepmom void of a father’s love is to be available to him. When your child needs you are there, his relationship with you will naturally be much more secure. You will have taken the place of the father and this will help him to feel comfortable around you and in turn you will become his friend. When a child feels as though their mother’s love is enough, they are usually happier because you have poured your heart out to them.
