A common scenario in many households is when a young boy, usually around age nine or ten, begins masturbating with his Mommy. This is usually done in secret and the Mom gets very upset and then does everything she can to make sure her son doesn’t continue. Sometimes she makes threats to leave him alone or send him to bed without his toys. Unfortunately, the problem is that even if she really does want to get rid of him, she has no power over him because he has the option of leaving town anytime he wants to.
How can we deal with this situation? The key here is to talk to your son. Explain to him that you understand how he feels about Mommy leaving him alone and that you understand why he might be angry and upset. Tell him that you understand and then give him your blessing to do what he wants to do with his time. If he wants to continue with his “bedtime activity” then offer to let him watch TV or play video games with his friends instead of leaving the house.
The next thing you need to do is to take some time out of the day to calm down and try to work on the problem with your son. Explain to your son that you understand that he is upset about Mommy leaving, but that it is not your fault and you will never change. Be patient with him and try to help him through this difficult time. You will be surprised how quickly he will revert back to his normal self.
